You’re too sensitive.
How many times did I hear that as a child?
I was that girl who cried during that Coke commercial back in the seventies. You know the one where people of all nationalities are holding hands and singing about teaching the world to sing in perfect harmony? I’m probably not the only one who was choking back tears over that one.
It’s good to have a heart that’s soft enough to be touched by something as simple as a musical jingle, but sometimes I found the intensity of my emotions crippling. The struggles friends had might send me spiraling into depression. Any injustice in the world would shut me down. I’d cry myself to sleep over the suffering I saw on the news, especially if a child was involved.
I’m not going to lie, there were times I felt crazy. Like I would never be able to lead a “normal” life when my heart was so easily wounded.
In college, many of my friends were engineers. I don’t think that was an accident. There was a real longing in me to be more like them. To think things through logically. To lead with the head rather than the heart. Eventually, I even married one. (And I’m grateful that I had the good sense to snatch him up.)
For a long time, I felt flawed. Weak. And I believed the lie that God had made a mistake with my personality. That I was someone who needed to be fixed, and could only be useful if I was less like myself and more like. . .
Can you fill in the blank? Are there times you feel like the things you perceive as personality quirks are flaws that God can’t use to help affect change in the world around you. Is there someone else you think you need to be to please God?
One of the lessons God taught me is that I am His masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works (Ephesians 2:10 NLT). We are his pièce de résistance. The creation that points most profoundly to His glory. And no mistakes were made in our creation. There is not one, single accident—we are all “on purposes”. And purposefully created.
In the hands of my God, I have seen Him use my unique sense of empathy for the glory of His kingdom. I’m the one who reaches out to the lonely. I sense the needs of those who are hurting. I’m able to walk hand in hand with someone through their loss. God has sent me to places where engineers dare not tread.
Another lesson God taught me is that it takes all kinds of personalities to reach over seven billion souls in a lost and hurting world. In 1 Corinthians 12:21, Paul artfully explains that there is a necessary uniqueness in every single member of the body of Christ—the church. “The eye can never say to the hand, ‘I don’t need you!’ And the head can’t say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you!’”
Logic, empathy, caregiving, creativity. God has given each of us distinct qualities that work to build up His body. And when our separate personalities unite, the church functions as God intended. It takes all our unique personalities working together to accomplish the good God has designed us to accomplish.
What ways do you see your personality as a weakness? What ways do you see God using your unique personality for good? Share your thoughts with us here in the comments below or on our facebook page.